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12 Steps of a Relapse

A tongue-in-cheek guide on what not to do in recovery. Source: AA Reviver Magazine June 2007, p32. 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing and that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was no power greater than ourselves and the …

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Prayers for each step

Step 1 prayer Dear Higher Power,I admit that I am powerless over my addiction.I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it.Help me this day to understandThe true meaning of powerlessness.Remove from me all denial of my addiction. Step 2 prayer God,I know in my heart that only you can restore …

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Maintaining Recovery

After completing the twelve steps in SLAA, the journey of recovery has only just begun! It is important to remain fully engaged within the program. One of the best ways to remain engaged in a full life of recovery is through service. Being a sponsor to others has been demonstrated as the best way to …

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Frequent Questions + Responses

1. How does anonymity work? SLAA is very protective of the anonymity of its members. Accordingly, meetings are normally closed to outsiders and those who are merely curious. At meetings and for all program matters, we only identify ourselves by our first name (and the initial of our surname, to avoid confusion with others who …

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Sexual Anorexia

What is anorexia? We offer this definition: “As an eating disorder, anorexia is defined as the compulsive avoidance of food. In the area of sex and love, anorexia has a similar definition: Anorexia is the compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment.” Patrick Carnes, the pioneering author on addiction and recovery, …

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Am I a Stinking Thinking Addict?

20 Questions To Ask Yourself Many people wonder whether they are an addict. This list is adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous, and changes the word “drinking” to “thinking”. The old adage applies: “It was not the drinking that got us stinking, but the stinking thinking that got us drinking.” All addicts have to admit that negative …

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Learning the Lingo

Abstinence. A change in our behaviour that involves stopping the addictive pattern — one day, sometimes one minute, at a time. Abstinence is a beginning point in sobriety. Acting Out. To engage in addictive behaviour. Engaging in a behaviour which is on one’s bottom line is often referred to as having a slip (more minor) …

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Outreach Calls

Why they are important and suggestions for making and receiving them Together with meetings, sponsorship, reliance on our Higher Power and providing service, outreach calls are a fundamental tool for successfully working the SLAA Twelve Step program. Making outreach calls to fellow members in the program helps us break our isolation, relieve our feelings of …

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Meeting Service Roles

Roles and Responsibilities Service is an essential part of recovery in SLAA. Most of us would never have found recovery if not for the work of members who came before us. Now free from active addiction, we too can serve the fellowship. SLAA service begins in the groups, which carry the message directly to still-suffering …

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Boundaries for Healthy Dating

Each boundary is a statement of the behaviour I no longer want to act out, followed by an affirming statement of the behaviour I want to replace the old behaviour with. THE JOURNAL. Jan/Feb 1992 This is not an official document, but suggestions by one member. ‘him/her/he/she’ language changed to ‘them/their’

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