Last Updated on 19 February 2023

Each boundary is a statement of the behaviour I no longer want to act out,
followed by an affirming statement of the behaviour I want to replace the old behaviour with.

I will not see them for reasons of being sexual.
I will see them to do something of mutual interest or to get to know as a friend.
I will not stop or cancel my other activities to see them.
I will see them when it fits into my schedule.
I will not have sex with them for at least 13 dates.
I will trust them before having sex.
I will not make them perfect.
I will see them for who they are.
I will not give away my trust.
I will take time to get to know them and come to my own conclusions about whether I should trust them.
I will not manipulate to get compliments of their attractions for me.
I will compliment myself.
I will not beat myself up for the first addictive thought.
I will replace addictive thoughts with healthy ones.
I will not constantly think about or fantasise about them.
I will have a well-rounded life where I think about all things happening in my life.
I will not pretend to be someone else.
I will be truthful, honest, and totally myself.
I will not share personal things about myself before its time.
I will keep appropriate boundaries and let intimacy develop naturally.
I will not jump head-first into the relationship. I will not have daily contact.
I will walk slowly, and initially talk to them only when we have specific plans.
I will not feel obligated to stay in the relationship, or to continue dating them.
I can end the dating/relationship whenever I want for any reason.