Last Updated on 5 January 2024
The final three steps are sometimes called the maintenance steps – because it is in practising these steps that we remain in recovery. Although it is possible to complete these steps relatively quickly, we continue to work these steps for the rest of our lives.
The HOW questions in this section refer to additional AA texts. You can find the specific texts included in the HOW Sponsorship Readings document:
Step 10
Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
The process that we undertook as part of Step 4 uncovered many aspects of our character – but that process needs to continue as a daily practice.
Step Ten in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text, stated (page 96), “If we were to continue the life-time process of reconciliation and intimacy with ourselves and others, we would need to process life as it was happening, day by day.”
Before answering this set of questions, we read the appropriate Step chapter in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA’s Big Book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text. You can also read or listen to the new (draft) SLAA texts: draft TSSE (Twelve Steps in Simplified English) and the draft SLAA 12&12.
Step Ten in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text, stated (page 96), “If we were to continue the life-time process of reconciliation and intimacy with ourselves and others, we would need to process life as it was happening, day by day.”
Before answering this set of questions, we read the appropriate Step chapter in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA’s Big Book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text. You can also read or listen to the new (draft) SLAA texts: draft TSSE (Twelve Steps in Simplified English) and the draft SLAA 12&12.
Step 10 Daily Inventory
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Step 11
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
We could never have got this far without help! As Richard Rohr describes it:
“When you “pray,” you are supposed to take off one “thinking cap” and put on another “thinking cap” that will move you from an egocentric perspective to a soul-centric perspective… The first mind sees everything through the lens of its own private needs and hurts, angers, and memories. It is too small a lens to see truthfully or wisely or deeply. The main work of prayer (the second mind) is of emptying the mind and filling the heart.” (from Breathing under Water.)
Before answering this set of questions, we read the appropriate Step chapter in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA’s Big Book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text.
“When you “pray,” you are supposed to take off one “thinking cap” and put on another “thinking cap” that will move you from an egocentric perspective to a soul-centric perspective… The first mind sees everything through the lens of its own private needs and hurts, angers, and memories. It is too small a lens to see truthfully or wisely or deeply. The main work of prayer (the second mind) is of emptying the mind and filling the heart.” (from Breathing under Water.)
Before answering this set of questions, we read the appropriate Step chapter in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA’s Big Book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text.
Step 12
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sex and love addicts, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.
“So our troubles are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves; and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he or she does not think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!” [Alcoholics Anonymous, Big Book, 62]
We must get out of our ego-centric heads and learn to serve others.
Before answering this set of questions, we read the appropriate Step chapter in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA’s Big Book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text.
We must get out of our ego-centric heads and learn to serve others.
Before answering this set of questions, we read the appropriate Step chapter in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA’s Big Book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA’s basic text.
