Welcome to slaamen.au – you are not alone.

On Tuesday there are two meetings running at the same time. (In person and online).
Where to next?
- Withdrawal
- Learning the Lingo
- 12 Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction
- Outreach Calls
- Sexual Anorexia
- Frequent Questions + Responses
- Sponsorship Guide – and how to find one
- Prayers for each step
- Program Books
- Recommended books
- theJournal
- Real Men of Sexual Integrity
Recovery Resources
A link to our shared Google Drive folder | Member material [member]
External Links
- Why Porn Can Be Difficult to Quit
- Studies of Over 11,000 Relationships Show 5 Things the Happiest Couples Have in Common
- How Porn Can Become an Escalating Behaviour
Meeting links
Serenity Prayer
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Tradition of Anonymity:
Whom you see here; what you hear here;
when you leave here: let it stay here.
Third Step Prayer
To the GOD of my own understanding:
God, I offer myself to You,
to build with me
and to do with me
as You will.
Relieve me of the bondage of self,
that I may better do Your will.
Take away my difficulties,
that victory over them
may bear witness to those
I would help
of Your Power,
Your Love,
and Your Way of life.
May I do Your will always!
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It works if you work it, and you’re worth it!
We invite you to join us in working the steps, and we encourage you to be rigorously honest from the outset. This is a simple program. Those of us who have suffered from grave emotional and mental disorders have noticed that we can recover if we are willing to be rigorously honest and work the steps.
Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened, and what we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have — and are willing to go to any lengths to get it — then we invite you to work the steps with us. At some of these steps we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we encourage you to be fearless and thorough from the start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas and the result was nil, until we let go absolutely.
Remember that we deal with sex and love addiction, which is cunning, baffling and powerful. Without help, it is too much for us. But there is one who has all power. That one is God. May you find God now!
Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at a turning point and asked for God’s protection and care with complete abandon.
Here are the steps we took which we suggest as a programme of recovery:
1. We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sex and love addicts, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.
Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it!” Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints.
The point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.
Our description of the sex and love addict, the chapter on the agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after, make clear three pertinent ideas:
a. That we are sex and love addicts and cannot manage our own lives.
b. That probably no human power could relieve our sex and love addiction.
c. That God could and would if God were sought.
The SLAA HOW program is designed for those who want a disciplined and structured approach to recovery. HOW means being Honest, Open-minded, and Willing. Using the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions, HOW invites full commitment to the program for lasting sobriety.
Instead of suggesting guidelines, HOW sees its defined tools as requirements for recovery. They aim for clear black and white boundaries to navigate life’s grey areas.
HOW uses a set of tools to manage sex and love addiction on a daily basis:
1. Bottom-Line Sobriety:
We abstain each day from individually defined addictive behaviors. Each person works with a sponsor to identify these “bottom lines.” This includes abstaining from negative thinking and developing positive top lines.
2. Literature and Writing:
We use SLAA literature, the AA Big Book, and the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions, substituting “sex and love addict” for “alcoholic” and “sex and love” for “alcohol.” Writing assignments are based on these texts.
3. Meetings:
Attend at least three meetings a week (in-person or online), focusing on hearing and sharing experience, strength and hope.
4. Telephone Calls:
Make four daily calls: one to our sponsor and three to other SLAA members for outreach and support. These calls may be like a mini-meeting.
5. Prayer and Meditation:
Daily practice to develop a relationship with a power greater than ourselves for guidance and support in recovery.
6. Service:
Giving back by helping at meetings, welcoming newcomers, and being available for calls and sponsorship.
7. Sponsorship:
A SLAA HOW sponsor has at least 30 days of continuous sobriety using the HOW program and has completed the first three steps. Sponsors are considered trusted servants, not leaders.
Tuesday Men’s Zoom 7th tradition:
Account: 4 Recovery
BSB: 670-864
Account: 1078-4093
For Thursday night meeting please donate to:
Account name: Andre SLAA
BSB: 923-100
Acct: 6196-2150
Rex Centre, Macleay Room,
50-58 Macleay St, Elizabeth Bay NSW
The men’s meetings that are listed on this website are in AET (Australian Eastern Time).
– Sunday 6:30-7:30am (click here)
– Tuesday 6.30-8pm (click here)
– Thursday 7-8pm (Express Share Meeting)
Tuesday and Thursday have our own Zoom meeting address
- Meeting ID: 813 8736 5955; Passcode: 123
Find up-to-date information about men’s meetings here. All meetings in AET.
- Sunday 6:30-7:45pm Men’s Time to Recover ZOOM Meeting
- Monday 6:30-7:45pm Northcote Men’s Time to Recover Meeting
- Tuesday 6:00-7:00pm Footscray Men’s Topic Meeting
- Wednesday 7-8:30pm Zoom Men’s Hour and Half of Power
- Thursday 6:30-7:30pm Canberra Men’s SLAA HOW Meeting
- Saturday 1-2:15pm Ferntree Gully Men’s Spiritual Program of Action
Chat with Recovery Assistant
Use the Recovery chat bot (below and on the bottom right of every screen) to ask the questions you’ve always wanted to know answers to about recovery.
because we can never be irreparably broken.
and it’s something that doesn’t get a day off.
courage is going on when you don’t have the strength.
so that everything I love in life
does not have to come last.
LOVE becomes difficult to find.
Because you are strong, and when you’re survived through all the shit your addiction has but you through, you can survive recovery.
for you get a chance to build bigger and better than before.